"Most of us say we want success, but when we actually think about success it can have a major consequence. It can bring you many social challenges - one of them is the level of jealousy.... even from family and friends!"
Many successful entrepreneurs have said that the more success they achieve, the fewer friends they have. It's only an African phenomenon - it’s a global issue. The question is whether it stops or motivates you!
Human beings have fundamental difficulties with handling success- in particular, the success of others. We accept that strangers are successful, but we just don't like to see our brother, old friend, our ex, or former classmate, succeed.
Some even say we've evolved to experience emotions like jealousy and envy as a natural response to our perceived "social rank" in society!
When people close to us succeed in their endeavors, we as humans require a 'logical" explanation why we were not the successful ones.
The foundation of friendship is that you are each other's equal and that balance is shifted when one party is successful while the other is not.
Success among our closest friends is often more problematic. Success comes in many forms. It might be having a new cool job, losing a lot of weight, or finding a new boyfriend/girlfriend (while you might still be single after searching for a new partner for a longtime).
Jealousy is more frequently seen between two friends than between two people who don't know each other.
When someone with the same background as yourself (for example, an old classmate) is successful, you will often feel unhappy about it than if the person in question was a stranger.
The worst thing is if an old classmate who wasn't even smarter than you becomes successful. This situation is almost more than we can handle.
As long as you are generally happy on your friend's behalf, feeling a little bit jealous is okay. Your reaction just shows that you would like to achieve something similar.
......MaraMentor
......MaraMentor
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